Before my son turned 5, i asked him what he wanted on his birthday. I made him choose between having a party with his friends or a family vacation. I gave him time to think, i told him that he has 3 days to think about it. So after 3 days:
i: son, have u decided on what you want on your birthday?
son: yes, i have decided. It was hard to choose because this would be my 1st birthday party ever if i choose a party. If i choose a vacation, we could travel outside US and i would be able to ride the airplane again.
i: so, what is your choice?
son: i choose a vacation with family.
i: why? dont u want to have a party? dont u like gifts from friends?
son: oh! i like it but i choose vacation so that baby, you and dad can also enjoy. I like to travel, remember? It would be so much fun, i would be able to ride the airplane again and visit our family in the Philippines.
i: are u sure about this?
son: im sure about my choice. Both are fun but i guess traveling is so much fun because we will do it for weeks, a birthday party is just one day.
i: good thinking and good choice.. Do you know that there will be a time when you would rather spend time with friends than family? Or would rather have a party than vacation?
son: i didnt know that. Maybe by that time, i will still choose a vacation over a party.
i: we will see 😊