smart talk with elderly 101

So as a continuation of my conversation with my son about this, i asked him a very important question…

i: what will u do with the money that u have if lets say u have more than what u need?

son: i will invest it and give it to charity…

i: but there are a lot of charities, how will u choose?

son: oh, i dont know…maybe ill give it to the people who has no money…those who doesnt have the money for food/house…

i: that is a good idea…but what if after u give them the money…they will use it to buy food or pay for a place to stay then they will have no more money left….will u continue to give them?

son: i dont know…maybe i will tell them to work and not be picky about it….i will tell them that it is easy to have a dollar as long as u work…or i will teach them some household chores…

i: that is so cute…i wish it is that easy…

One of the things that my son is teaching the baby is the word kiss…So, after a few days, the baby now knows what kiss means and she does kiss when u say kiss….A few hours ago, i saw my son saying to the baby ” give me a kiss baby ” then he said…

son: mom, the baby knows how to kiss…did u see that? she needs more practice though because she gets saliva all over my cheek…

i: she is just learning…

son: i know…she also kissed me so quick…

i: yes, she did…what is wrong with that?

son: nothing…what i mean is that, the kiss is quick but the love remains…

While we were going to the grocery store, my son asked me this question..

son: mom, is it hard to get 1 dollar?

i: what do u mean? 4 quarters is 1 dollar…

son: i know that, what im asking is if it is hard to make a dollar…

i: u mean…earning or getting 1 dollar?

son: yes, because no one will just give u a dollar for free, right?

i: right! no one will hand u a dollar for free…it depends on the person looking for the money…if a person is lazy, it is hard for that person to make money…if the person is very picky with work then it might be harder…

son: so u mean to say, i can make 1 dollar if i want to?

i: yes…

son: oh? or i could sell my paintings, right?

i: right! why are u asking me this question?

son: i was just wondering because we have to pay for everything…just like the gas. food and other things..so if a person doesnt have money, then that person might not be able to eat, sleep in bed or even travel…

i: yes…u are right about that…

son: so, what happens to them? does anybody help them at all? maybe the people with much money should share to those people who has none as long as the person who has none is not lazy…

I enrolled my son in baseball and soccer this fall because he wants to be part of it and because he wants to try it for the 1st time. My only requirement for him to join, is to enjoy the game and learn something from it. To my surprise, he outdid himself by exhibiting or developing good insight towards the games. Please see conversation below:

i: son, today is ur baseball and soccer game…it is also at the same time…which game will u attend?

With this question, my husband and i seemed to know the answer already. He is surprisingly good at baseball and he knows that he is not good at soccer, he would often tell us that he is scared of the ball but he would run after it… So while i was preparing his uniform for baseball without waiting for his response, he told me this..

son: i will go to my soccer game…

i: why? (i was really surprised)

son: i know i am better in baseball and i suck at soccer but i will go to my soccer game so that i can improve my soccer skills… it is not about winning…u told me…as long as im learning and enjoying, that is all that matters…

I didnt expect this response and was humbled by him. To be honest, if it was myself, i would go to the baseball game knowing that i will enjoy it more because the chances of winning is great. My son really taught me something during that moment…such awesome insight…

My son was asking me this morning if it was already sunday…I told him it is still saturday…

son: that is good, i still have time…

i: what do u mean by u still have time?

son: i want to make a card for u for mother’s day…

i: thank u but u dont have to…as long as u and baby are healthy and good, i am content and happy…i dont need any card from u…

son: i know, but i just want to make a card for u so u will always remember that i am thankful that u are my “nanay” (this word means mom in our language) and that we will always love u…there are times when baby and i dont listen to u but it doesnt mean that we dont love or care for u…sometimes, our mind wants to listen and obey to u but our body doesnt…we cant control it…

( i was laughing when he said this, it is too cute coming from a 5 year old)

We were at the store today trying to find a bat pack. While we were at the store, my son said…

son: oh no! this is too expensive…59.95 dollars! that is a lot of money…Buying this bag is like thinking between energy and money…

I was so confused as to why he is saying this. So i asked: what do u mean by money vs energy?

son: What i mean is, right now i am carrying my glove, helmet, hat and bat to the baseball game/practice…it needs a lot of energy to do that…but if we buy this bag, it will not need a lot of energy for me to carry my things…it will require less energy but money because this is expensive if we buy this….

i: oh i see…so what do u think?

son: its ok mom, i will just carry my things, it will require more energy but no money…with the bag it requires money and energy…i am still a kid, i have lots of energy anyway…

So, we end up not buying the bag…

Yesterday…Sunday, was an important day for my son, he was excited for the baseball clinic…So everyone in the house was busy preparing… All of a sudden my son yelled…

son: mom, dad…baby got something that is sharp!

So immeditely both my husband and i ran to both of them…We saw our daughter holding what looked like a push pin…We didnt know where it came from, it might be from our homeschool supplies…This was the 1st time that it happened but the funny thing was what my son said to my daughter…

son: phew baby, u are hurting my heart…

i: what do u mean by that?

son: when i saw her with that sharp thing, i thought she will hurt herself, i got so worried, i felt like my heart was hurting…

i: that is because u care and love her…That is how we feel if one of u is not listening and we are anticipating that u will get hurt…

son: oh no, that is not a good feeling…

i: i know but that is how u feel if the person u care or love is in trouble/danger or will be in trouble/danger…

My son got so quiet, then he hugged the baby saying: dont do it again baby, ok? my heart was hurting when u did that..

She is one lucky and fortunate baby…

Monday is the only day when i make my son play with the IPAD. However, last monday he tried to negotiate with me…

son: mom, is it ok if i play with my IPAd on tuesday for 1 hour since i didnt get to play with my IPAD today for more than 6 hours because i have to go to the practice, i do like games but i like my IPAD too..

i: ok, i will let u play with ur IPAd for half a day on tuesday..

son: thank u…

So, tuesday came and as soon as i went home my son said…

son: mom, dad made me play IPAD for 4 hours only…he should have made me play for 12 hours since 1 day is 24 hours and half of 24 is 12…

i: son, what i meant of half day is half day of daytime..

son: ohhh, but half of 12 hours is 6, not 4 hours…

i: son, u are right but usually half day is from 8am to 12pm…im sorry i should have been more specific but 4 hours was way better than 1 hour…

son: i guess u are right…

I enrolled my son in soccer and baseball this spring because he wants to do it. I am not one of the stage mom who wants their kid to be the number one in a game or a mom who wants his kid to be good at everything. The only reason why i enrolled him is because he wants to do it. As a result, our family has a very busy schedule every week. So lastnight after one of his soccer games i asked him as to which one does he enjoy doing, baseball or soccer…

son: i like both of it…100% for each…

i: why do u like it? 

son: because it is fun!..i know we lost during our soccer game but it is fun…i love to do it because of the fun not because i like to win it…

i: really? that is great! so your purpose is to have fun and not to win the game?

son: oh no mom…i like to do it to learn and to have fun and not because i like to win…if we win, its good…if not, it is still ok…😊

I have been homeschooling my son for a few months now and it seems like its getting overwhelming so i finally told him that he will be going to a regular school.

son: oh no! i want to be homeschooled, i dont want to go to school, its a long time..

i: but u need to try it because there are times when its hard for me to do it because i have to go to work…

son: ok, i guess i will go to school then because u already paid for it. I dont want to waste the money..I guess there are times when we have to do things even if we dont want to…

i: (i felt so bad hearing him say this but at the same time thankful that he realizes that there will be a time in our lives when we need to do things even if we dont like to do it because its necessary) thank u son…i tell u what, try it for 1 year and if u really dont like it…we will homeschool u…i just want u to try it so that u can really compare things out…

son: thank u so much (saying this while giving me a hug)